[originaltext] Marriage often is not easy. Love often is not easy. Sometimes

Marriage often is not easy. Love often is not easy. Sometimes friendship between a man and a woman is not easy. Maybe a man and a woman love or like each other, but they argue. They get angry. Later they apologize (say "I’m sorry"), but it happens again and again. What’s the problem? Are men and women really very different?
    Deborah tannen says yes. Men and women are very different.  Tannen teaches at Georgetown University. She writes books about the ways people talk. She believes that men and women talk—and think—in different ways. She tells about some differences in her book You Just Don’t Understand.
    The differences, Tannen says, begin when men and women are children. Very young boys and girls are similar to each other. In other words, they like the same things and play in the same ways. They aren’t very different. But then there is a change. When children in the United States are five or six years old, boys usually play in large groups. One boy gives orders. For example, he says, "Take this," "Go over there," and "Be on this team." He is the leader. Boys also brag. In other words, they say good things about themselves. To have a high position in the group is important to boys.
    Girls in the United States usually play in small groups or with one other girl. A girl’s "best friend" is important to her. Girls don’t often give orders; they give suggestions. For example, they say, "let’s go over there," "Maybe we should do this," and "Do you want to play with that?" Girls don’t usually have a leader, and they don’t often brag. Everyone has an equal position.