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  3. If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it y

If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it y

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问题     If you want to teach our children how to say sorry, you must be good at it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quiet tricky.
    If you say to your children "I am sorry I got angry with you, but ..." what follows that "but’ can render the apology ineffective. "I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
    Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say ’Tm sorry you’re upset"; this suggests that you are somewhat at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
    Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I’m useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
    These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
    But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children will need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy to requires an apology. A six-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the buscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not. [br] It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is ______.
选项 A、a social issue calling for immediate attention
B、not necessary among family members
C、a sign of social progress
D、not as simple as it seems
答案 D
解析 主旨题。四个选项中，我们应清醒地认识到每个选项的重点，这并不需要 immediate(迅速，不容耽搁)的回应，主要对孩子，并不是所有家庭成员，更没有上升到社会进步的角度，只是比较复杂，没想像中那么简单而已。
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