[originaltext]W: Hi, Jerry, I find it difficult to solve disputes between lover

W: Hi, Jerry, I find it difficult to solve disputes between lovers.
M: It’s easy; the truth of love is that one must master the art of losing.
W: Isn’t "win-win" solution useful in love or marriage?
M: I don’t think so, success in marriage resides more in "lose-lose" solutions.
W: I cannot imagine the "lose-lose " solutions will be helpful.
M: Yes, take mine as an example, one day our tastes of picking new living-room wall-paper were at odds.
W: Who gave up to another?
M: Both. We changed our way. There are over two hundred samples, we should spend our energy finding one that suits us both, instead of quarreling over the ones we don’t like.
W: That’s the way. Eventually you both can be satisfied.
M: The "wallpaper book" became our symbol for settling the issues in marriage.
W: But I run the relationship with a mess. We argue over how to spend money and who is going to be in control.
M: Yes, that’s true. We also had experienced that, when I was young my need to control arose out of fear, a lack of trust, insecurity.
W: But giving up control is often confused with weakness.
M: The winner in a domestic argument is never really the winner.
W: What is it we want most from a marriage? To love and be loved. To be happy and secure.
M: If you want to feel loved and respected, give up control. And if you want to win arguments at home, learn to lose them. A love relation is the garden in which we plant, cultivate and harvest.
Questions 9 to 11 are based on the conversation you have just heard.
9. What’s the main topic of this conversation?
10. How did the man solve the dispute with his wife?
11. Why do people want to control in marriage according to the man?